About faithfulness...
I went for a tea with a friend. He brought me to a place i didn't know, a very nice and cosy place.
And we had a talk about many different topics...and faithfulness.
I wanted to know his opinion about faithfulness. His opinion is a bit different of mine.
He told me that, though he's been in couple for 6 years, both of them are allowed to have sex with anyone they want...as long as it remains a sex relationship.
So i asked him what a sex relationship is.
Of course, he told me it involves only sex, no other commitment...but he goes to the restaurant, or out, or to the countryside for a weekend...with those persons.
This is commitment for me :)
Don't get me wrong: i don't judge him, i only speak out loud, i try to make a comment.
As i'm used to say: to each his own recipe for love.
And he tells everything that happened to his partner: no lies, no mysteries, no treachery...
I understand that having sex only, with a stranger, doesn't mean that he's unfaithful. But for me, having sex only means having sex...not going out or leaving for a weekend.
This is too much for me :)
This involves deeper relations than just sex. I would feel betrayed.
And we had a talk about many different topics...and faithfulness.
I wanted to know his opinion about faithfulness. His opinion is a bit different of mine.
He told me that, though he's been in couple for 6 years, both of them are allowed to have sex with anyone they want...as long as it remains a sex relationship.
So i asked him what a sex relationship is.
Of course, he told me it involves only sex, no other commitment...but he goes to the restaurant, or out, or to the countryside for a weekend...with those persons.
This is commitment for me :)
Don't get me wrong: i don't judge him, i only speak out loud, i try to make a comment.
As i'm used to say: to each his own recipe for love.
And he tells everything that happened to his partner: no lies, no mysteries, no treachery...
I understand that having sex only, with a stranger, doesn't mean that he's unfaithful. But for me, having sex only means having sex...not going out or leaving for a weekend.
This is too much for me :)
This involves deeper relations than just sex. I would feel betrayed.
posted by J at Sunday, November 26, 2006
2 Comments:
lots of people told me the same things like your friend did and i couldn't get the idea as well. i feel that those people are just too afraid to take the responsibility to be with someone. that's a betrayal, and now they just get a "good" reason for their own mess. i wonder if they ever know "LOVE"??
Actually, my friend doesn't really believe in love. Though his partner really is important to him (he really cares) i don't think it's pure love.
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